Little Steps at the Beginning of the Journey
I have found some effective and life-changing little steps we can begin to take every day that will lead us out of fear and feelings of low self-esteem. They will work for anyone at any age or stage of life. They are free and require no down payment or financial expense at all. In fact, you won’t even need to clip coupons or sign a contract to begin to turn your life around and find a “new you.” You are about to begin a journey with me, when you choose to take the first little steps.
Here are my little steps to the new you:
Little Step #1 – Get a STOP SIGN
You get to make a choice right now. Here’s what I am offering to get you going. Make a CHOICE – STOP fears, insecurities, and challenges you have embraced. Decide to put a STOP sign up in your mind every time you begin to speak about negative things that have kept you bound up for way too long. Everyone experiences negative feelings, fears, guilt, hatred, and self pity. Decide to quit talking about those things and instead, talk about the good things you experience every day.
Have you noticed that the THINGS that come to us in the NIGHT are never positive – always negative and fearful? When you wake up with those frightening thoughts, STOP them in their tracks. Put up that STOP sign.
And, while you are at it, forgive anyone who has hurt you in the past. Just release that hurt and let go of it. It is not worth holding onto. Put up your STOP sign right now. We can always, in every situation, choose how to react. At any moment we can regain power by taking the higher path and making better choices.
Little Step # 2- No more excuses
Take responsibility for your life and eliminate the excuses that have kept you from experiencing a satisfying life.
Think about what you personally can do and take action. Ask yourself what you can do, and then listen for the response. Don’t worry, it won’t be something beyond your capabilities. It will be just a little step that will come to your mind. Go ahead. See where it takes you. I can promise you, it will be just perfect for you and your interests and passions in life.
Little Step #3 – Change some of your words
Change your vocabulary and choose better words that will make you feel like a winner.
The next time you feel words like “I can’t” coming up in your mouth, switch it to “I will figure out how to do that!”
Little Step #4 – Look for an “Exit” sign
When you feel like you are trapped in a corner with no exit in sight, switch it around in your mind, and begin to scan the horizon for the exit sign. It’s there. Don’t worry. You will soon find it but you have to begin to look for it first.
Eliminate feeble phrases, such as, “I think” or “I feel,” “in my opinion,” “honestly,” “and “but” from your speech. Instead, say positive and strong statements such as “I know” or “I am certain.” Watch what a difference this will make in your conversations with other people. You will lift them up with your confidence and you will eliminate hesitation and waffling in your own consciousness as you speak.
Little Step #5 – Get your Mantra Right!
Give yourself an “attitude adjustment” by using your personal mantra every day. Think about what you are going to say, and see if you need to turn it around to be more assertive and positive. Your attitude may need a tune-up.
When you begin to realize you might be viewed as a “bossy person” begin to think “I am a person who has very strong leadership abilities.” Your strength and assertive leadership abilities may often be criticized by negative, fearful, and insecure people Recognize that, and continue on to be the leader you already are deep down inside.
I have adopted a personal mantra for my everyday life. My mantra is “I have everything I need and I have it right now.” This changed my focus from thinking about things as not attainable, to thinking instead of already having what I need. I think of what I do already have and it changes my focus. It gives me abundance instead of lack. It reminds me to be grateful for what I have and to honor that gratitude in my daily life.
Little Step # 6.- Stay focused on gratitude:
Here are some creative and fun ways that I found to be beneficial not only to myself, but to others:
Write a JOURNAL and focus on your revision of life
This is not a diary of “what I did today.” This is a statement of what I am revising and envisioning for my life. Write it out as though it has come to pass. Write out the details that you envision. As you write it out, you are setting your intention and you are sending it out to the Universe. You are intentionally “casting your bread upon the waters” and it will return to you multiplied. You are planting seeds that will grow a harvest in your personal life.
Begin a Blog
Write positive essays and poems. Share inspiring photographs and art works. You will quickly find that when writing about uplifting and encouraging topics, that you will keep yourself inspired as you reach out this way to other people who will read your blog articles.
Create a Facebook Page
Be inspired and positive every time you visit your page. Don’t get caught up in passing along gossip or negative comments or replies. Make strong and powerful statements that others will look forward to reading. Never post negative words toward another person but look for the best things you can say to and about everyone you are in contact with. It is a gift to be able to communicate with others and in return, give your cyber friends the gifts of good, positive, uplifting words at every opportunity you have.
Display your awards and honors
Have you won some award ribbons or garnered some plaques of recognition? Put them out on your wall so you can see them every day and think about the recognition you received when you won them. They are physical markers of your life’s achievements and be proud of them. Toot your own horn, and sing your own tune. Follow your muse and give thanks for the rewards and awards you have garnered by your hard work and dedication.
Perhaps you have graduated from college or other kinds of programs where you received a diploma. Frame your diplomas and hang them on your wall. Mine are nicely framed and I look at them often as I sit in my office working. Dust off those trophies you have won and display them with pride on a shelf in a special place.
My diplomas, award ribbons and trophies and plaques help me realize I worked many years, spent a great deal of my very hard earned money and dedicated so much thought and energy in the process as I earn them. You can be very proud of these symbols of your own achievements and they deserve a special place in your daily life.
Other ways of celebrating your life every day can be by framing special photos of yourself, your family, and your friends. Make a grouping of those people and put it prominently in your home or office so that you share their lives with others who see them. I have framed a number of family photographs and put them along the stairway wall leading to the upstairs of our home. Every time I walk by them, I see the faces of people I love and I honor them in this way. Often, I say a silent prayer for a particular face that I have seen that morning as I come downstairs for the day. Each person is a “treasure” and deserved this special recognition.
Take my Little Steps at the beginning of your journey. One or two small steps every day can be your initial goals on this new path to overcome negative feelings. No more “pity parties” for you! Your little steps will lead you away from all of them. You are changing every day and you can feel it! You will develop some other special little steps that will be just for you to take as you begin the journey. I am offering just a few of my own for you to consider today.
Be sure to share your discoveries to wholeness with everyone around you. They will see a difference in you and they will be curious. This is your opportunity to share the joy of living beyond fear. Others will soon be joining you on this new path and it’s so much fun to walk together as we are renewed and refreshed every day.